Many others, given the age we live in, will have a greater number of these troubling factors. Their presence is certainly not destiny or unavoidable destruction, but they can and often do present additional challenges for newly married couples. Think of it as some rocks placed into your backpack on the journey of marriage. It can be helpful to be aware of the extra burdens you bear and seek help in carrying them. Often, a remedy that is both most powerful and simple is for such couples to find an older couple who has successfully learned from and overcome the struggles of married life and can accompany you and your spouse, lightening your load with sage advice, encouraging you when times are tough, and—most of all—just being there, journeying along with you. Older, co-journeying couples are a great protection against the shame and isolation that can poison marriages.